Online Couple Therapy
Hello, my name is Elaine McKenzie and I am BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy) accredited and a UKCP registered Psychotherapist and Couple Counsellor. I have more than 15 years’ experience working with children, adults and couples.
My experience is wide ranging, working therapeutically with young people, adults, couples and families presenting all manner of ‘symptoms’ always informed by specific professional training for couples.
I am also trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Psychodynamic Psychotherapy. Both of which, offer different evidence-based theories assisting in a creative, integrative approach. Such ‘tools’ gained from various theoretical models produce a ‘tailor made’ fit for each unique individual or couple. My approach enables me “go with whatever” emerges during a session. I seek to empower individuals to build inner, emotional resilience and find their own solutions
An ethical requirement as a therapist is to undertake continual professional development. This is to increase my knowledge in specialist areas including addiction, personality disorders and PTSD. This deepens my understanding as well as maintaining up-to-date practice techniques. An awareness of ‘Body Psychotherapy’ for example, has provided another therapeutic approach in order to comprehend ‘symptoms’. Some of these symptoms may be physical, some mental and others emotional; and they have become embodied.
The human condition is very much heightened during a time when society is experiencing extreme uncertainty – known as existential angst. Which is the essence of existence necessary for survival. However, it can become overwhelming when out of control.
I understand that it can be difficult to admit to having problems within your relationship. It can also take great courage to do so. However, it’s at this point, that there can be a real ‘break through, rather than breakdown’. It might feel like a big decision seeking professional help. However, in my experience, relationship problems don’t just go away because they are not spoken about. Instead, they fester, until potentially, the relationship falls apart. It’s where at this point of vulnerability lies the strength. Therefore, if both parties are willing, there is always a solution to be found.
Your choice of relationship therapist is of course very important. Therefore, the initial session is not only about you telling me what has brought you both to therapy and what you hope to achieve. It is also your opportunity to consider whether you feel comfortable working with me and believe that I can support you in achieving your objectives.
If you both decide to go ahead with sessions we will work and think together, each committing to the therapeutic alliance and the exploration of your specific challenges. My practice is to take a full history from each individual perspective, this offers insight into where and how.
How I work with couples
My aim as a couple’s counsellor is to facilitate a ‘space’ for you both to ‘listen to and hear the other person’. This will allow you both the time to think and reflect upon how and why any patterns of dysfunctional relating from the past; might be re-enacted in the present. This can create problems within the current relationship but it also offers an opportunity for change.
Online couple therapy can be open-ended or time-limited, depending on your individual situation. I am experienced in working with issues such as infidelity, lack of intimacy or domestic violence; all of which are barriers to communicating effectively. Or perhaps you feel just generally ‘stuck’ with an inability to identify the problem in order to relate more harmoniously. Or alternatively, in some cases, help to separate amicably.
difficulties may have originated and developed plus acknowledging the impact upon your lives bringing to light what may need to change.
My style is to listen to empathetically, and without judgment, to what you both have to say. I will ensure that I have understood correctly what you are both verbalising. The feeling of being ‘heard’ fosters confidence and validation through the building and maintaining of the therapeutic relationship.
The promoting of individual mindfulness and self-reflection within the ‘couple’ relationship means that self-awareness is promoted and change can be fostered. Therefore, leading to more healthy patterns of relating being achieved. By seeking help for your relationship you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
I subscribe to and work within the UKCP code of ethics and the BACP ethical framework. This demands regular clinical supervision as mandatory to ensure good practice. I also hold professional indemnity insurance and an enhanced DBS check.
If you have problems in your relationship and would like to make an appointment to see Elaine. Please contact her via Online Couples Counselling today. Request an appointment to see Elaine