What to Expect in a Couples Counselling Session
Starting therapy as a couple can feel like a big step. You might feel nervous, unsure, or even a bit sceptical. That’s completely normal. Many couples worry about what to expect, whether it will help, and if it will just end in more arguments.
The truth is, couples counselling is a calm, structured space where you can both feel heard, understood, and supported. It’s not about blame. It’s about insight, communication, and creating change that works for both of you.
And because our sessions take place online via Zoom, you don’t need to travel, sit in a waiting room, or even be in the same physical location as your partner. You can start therapy together, from wherever you are.
First Things First: It’s Not About Taking Sides
One of the biggest worries couples have before their first session is that the therapist might “pick a side.” But that’s not how couples therapy works. A good therapist creates a neutral, respectful space where each person’s voice matters equally.
In our online sessions, your therapist will gently guide the conversation so you both feel included, even if you’re joining the session from different places. You’ll work together as a team, with support every step of the way.
What Happens in the First Session?
Your first session is usually about getting to know each other. You will be asked the following questions so the therapist can understand what you are hoping to achieve
– Why you’ve come to therapy
– What’s been happening in your relationship
– What each of you would like to change
– How you’d like things to feel instead
The therapist might ask about how you met, your history as a couple, and what your current challenges look like day-to-day. It’s a chance to set some shared goals and start exploring how you communicate and relate to one another.
And because it’s online, you can attend from a private, comfortable space that feels safe for you, whether that’s your bedroom, office, or even your car on a lunch break. Many people find this makes it easier to open up.
You Don’t Have to Be in Crisis
Many couples think therapy is only for when things are really bad — but that’s not the case. Some couples come simply because they want to strengthen their connection, improve how they communicate, or navigate life changes as a team.
You might be arguing a lot, or not talking at all. You might feel more like flatmates than partners. Or maybe you’re getting along well, but something just feels missing.
Online therapy makes it easier to get support before things hit breaking point. No travel, no extra stress, just professional support for your relationship from wherever you are.
A Safe Space for Both of You
A couples counselling session is a place where you can pause the usual patterns, reflect on what’s happening beneath the surface, and speak honestly without fear of judgement or interruption.
Whether you’re sitting side by side on the sofa or each joining from a different device, your Zoom sessions will offer:
– A calm, neutral space to talk openly
– Tools to help you slow things down and communicate more clearly
– Support from an experienced therapist who understands how couples get stuck, and how to move forward
Will It Feel Awkward?
At first, maybe. But that usually fades quickly. Once you realise you’re in a safe space, it becomes easier to open up and have the kinds of conversations you might struggle to have on your own.
Most couples find that just having someone else involved changes the tone in a positive way. Online therapy is surprisingly personal, most couples say they forget they’re even on Zoom because the session feels so focused and supportive.
How Many Sessions Will We Need?
Every couple is different. Some people come for just a few sessions, others continue for longer. It depends on your goals and how things unfold.
In general, the earlier you come to therapy, the easier it is to work through issues before they become deeply entrenched. That said, even long-standing patterns can change with time, care, and commitment.
With online therapy, there’s more flexibility to keep up momentum, no travel time, and easier scheduling means you can focus on progress without the pressure.
What If My Partner Isn’t Sure?
It’s completely normal for one person to be more ready than the other. If your partner is unsure, encourage them to come along for just one session. Often, once they’ve experienced it, they feel more open and hopeful.
And because it’s online, there’s less pressure, no waiting room awkwardness, no need to travel, and no expectations to “perform.” Just two people having a supported conversation, guided by someone who’s there to help.
Ready to Try It?
If you’re even thinking about couples counselling, there’s probably something you care about enough to explore. That’s a good sign.
We offer confidential, online couples therapy via Zoom, making it easy to get support from wherever you are in the UK. It’s safe, private, and designed to fit around busy lives.
Book your first online session now with our easy online booking system, no referral is needed.