Is Couples Counselling Right for Us?
Every couple hits bumps in the road. Some are small and fleeting, whilst others linger, leaving you feeling stuck, hurt, or unsure what to do next. If you’re wondering whether couples counselling could help, you’re not alone. This is one of the most common questions we hear.
Let’s talk honestly about what couples therapy is (and isn’t), and how to know if it might be right for you.
Signs It Might Be Time to Try Couples Counselling
You don’t need to be on the brink of breaking up to benefit from therapy. In fact, many couples come to counselling simply because they want to feel more connected and supported. Here are some common signs that now might be the right time:
- • You keep having the same arguments with no resolution
- • You feel more like housemates than partners
- • There’s been a breakdown in trust (e.g. after an affair or emotional betrayal)
- • You’re struggling to communicate without things escalating
- • One or both of you feels unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally disconnected
- • Intimacy, emotional or physical, has faded
- • You’re navigating a big life change (like parenthood, loss, or moving)
If any of these sound familiar, couple therapy can offer a space to work through it *together*, with professional support.
What Actually Happens in Couples Counselling?
If you’ve never done therapy before, the idea of couples counselling can feel a bit daunting. You might worry that the therapist will take sides, or that it will just lead to more arguments.
In reality, couples counselling isn’t about attributing blaming or “fixing” one person. It’s about helping you both understand your individual perspective, patterns of behaviour, so you can improve communication, and find healthier ways of relating.
Your Relationship Counsellor will gently ask you:
• What’s been happening in your relationship
• How each of you sees the issues
• What you’d like to be different
• How you both contribute to the dynamic (without blame)
It’s a calm, structured space to slow things down and hear each other in a new way, with a qualified relationship therapist guiding the process.
Will It Work If My Partner Doesn’t Want to Come?
This is so common. Often, one partner is more open to therapy than the other, and that’s OK. Sometimes, just coming along to the first session is enough to help a hesitant partner see the value.
If your partner isn’t ready, you might still find individual therapy helpful to explore your feelings and options.
What If It’s “Too Late”?
It’s natural to worry that things are already too far gone. But you’d be surprised, many couples who thought they were at breaking point have found real clarity, healing and hope through therapy.
It’s never too late to try.
Could Online Couples Counselling Work for Us?
Absolutely. We offer Zoom-based couples counselling that’s flexible, confidential and just as effective as in-person sessions. Whether you’re living together or apart, online therapy makes it easier to fit support into busy lives.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you’re even *thinking* about couples counselling, that’s a good sign you care enough to want things to improve. Therapy is a safe, supportive way to work things through – together.
Book your first online couples counselling session now – easy online booking, no referral needed.