Insights & Advice

How Annoying is Your Partner?

Relationship Problems – How Annoying is Your Partner? There is lots of advice available about what to look for in a life partner – honesty, shared values, chemistry, consideration and so on. However, we don’t often think too much about the negative traits we are willing to accept and accommodate in a long-term relationship....

Is Your Partner Gaslighting You?

Gaslighting in relationships Does your other half constantly put you down or treat you badly? Then when you react they tell you that YOU are the crazy one and accuse you of being ‘oversensitive’ or ‘paranoid’? Worse still, have you started to believe them? If so, you may be the victim of ‘gaslighting’. Our marriage...

Avoidance in Relationships

Avoidance in Relationships Silence isn’t always golden. It can be grating, isolating and hurtful to be in a relationship with a partner who is silent or avoidant of conversations that they deem might be difficult. At its worst, silence can push the person on the receiving end into extreme behaviours through frustration. Sometimes resulting...

Emotional Unavailability

Emotionally Unavailability Do you often alone even when you are with your partner? Perhaps you frequently feel frustrated hurt or angry because they get defensive or dismissive you when you are trying to express your feelings? Maybe you feel like you are unable to develop a real emotional intimacy with them? Or you feel they...

Relationship Difficulties

Relationship Difficulties Evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship starts to form in infancy with our early attachments. A child’s earliest experiences with who reliably meets their needs for food, care, warmth, protection, stimulation and social contact. Ref: https:/www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles Most theorists agree that it is these early relationships that form the...

Why Online Couples Counselling Works

Why Online Couples Counselling Works Online couples counselling may sound like a misnomer. After all, isn’t counselling supposed to be face-to-face, with the counsellor sitting a couple of feet away? That’s the image that’s ingrained in us thanks to movies and the media. But online couples counselling works and it is becoming increasingly popular....

Are You Tired of Being Phubbed?

Phubbing in Relationships Relationships are often difficult enough but now there is a new obstacle getting in the way – known as “phubbing” – which is a merging of the words “phone” and “snubbing” ref; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phubbing The definition of phubbing is ‘snubbing someone in favour of a mobile phone’ Phubbing causes problems in romantic relationships...

Mind-Reading in Relationships

The Danger of Mind-Reading in Relationships Can you recall the last time you were confused in your relationship because you couldn’t find an explanation as to why your partner was behaving in a certain way or why they said a particular thing? Or the last time you felt worried that things were not going...

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How to Ensure Your Relationship Survives the Lockdown

June Brogan is an experienced ‘Relate’ trained couple counsellor, now working for Online Couples Counselling Below, June offers her expert advice on the best way to manage your relationship during the Covid-19 lockdown. Relationships Most relationships are improved by the time we spend apart as well as the special things we do to invest into...

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Emotional Neglect in Adult Romantic Relationships

Emotional neglect can have a powerful detrimental effect on the quality and longevity of adult romantic relationships. Unfortunately, it is all too common and something that often leads couples to seek relationship counselling. What is emotional neglect? Sian Jones is a relationship counsellor and she defines it this way. Emotional neglect is the opposite of...