Insights & Advice

Take Control of You in Your Relationship

The finger of blame When couples seek online relationship help they are often complaining about how their partner treats them. They firmly believe it’s them that is stopping them from being happy by being ‘thoughtless’ ‘critical’ ‘irresponsible’ or ‘complacent’. Resulting in the belief they are forced to take control, demand attention and stand up...

Has Your Relationship Become Stale?

The stale relationship One of the most common reason that bring couples to online marriage counseling is because their relationship has become stale. Especially if they have been together for a number of years. Similarly, there are no recently discovered affairs or out of control arguments or commonly unacceptable behaviour on either side. Likewise,...

Romantic Jealousy & Suspicion

No one enjoys feeling jealous or insecure, even though jealousy is an emotion that almost all of us will experience at one point or another. The problem with jealousy isn’t that it comes up from time to time, it’s when we don’t get hold of it. It can be frightening to experience what happens when we allow our jealousy to overpower us or to shape the way we feel about ourselves and the world around us.

Be Honest & Be Happy!

Why Effective Communication Makes For Happier Relationships The most common problem couples face is simply down to a lack of communication along with an avoidance of being honest. Many people report that they choose not to say what is bothering them within their relationship, either through a fear of conflict or a concern about upsetting the other person.

Emotional Bullying

The most obvious scenario for emotional bullying (also known as emotional abuse) is in an intimate relationship in which a man is the abuser and the woman is the victim. However, a variety of studies show that men and women abuse each other at equal rates*

How Emotionally Intelligent People Express Anger

Most of us don’t like confrontation and will avoid it where possible. However, it’s a fact of life that we can’t run away from it forever. There are times we have to assert ourselves, our boundaries and our needs and others will want to do the same with us.

What Counts As Cheating On Your Partner?

A question I am often asked is - “What Counts as Cheating in a Relationship?” My summary reply is - “When you do, say or write something that you wouldn’t want your partner to see, hear or read then you know you are being unfaithful” Cheating or unfaithfulness is difficult to define because people often differ in what they deem appropriate contact or interaction for a partner to have with someone else.

Where Our Relationship Patterns Come From

In an ideal world, we would all be born with perfectly attuned parents who love us and are there for our every need but who also give us just the right amount of space and independence to flourish and fully develop. All our parents would provide a solid base from which we could venture out as separate individuals because we would feel safe and secure.

It’s not about the nail…..

This is well worth a watch; it's somewhat tongue in cheek, however, experience has shown - it's very accurate.

Why am I still single?

There are a many different reasons that some people are single. Some simply choose to be and are not interested in being in a relationship at a particular point in their life, if ever. Ohers are single due to circumstances; they may have just come out of a relationship or just haven’t been able to find someone with whom they feel they are compatible with. There are also a number of people who are constantly looking for an answer to the question “why am I still single” In my experience the answer to this is complex but more in our control than we might think.